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How to Persevere Despite the Constant Battles
Life as a stepmother is quite different from being a bio mom. Having raised two girls of my own to the current ages of 18 and 16, I can attest that stepmothering has its own unique challenges. Especially when you add all sorts of outside conflicts from a life lived before you came along. I…
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How to Deal with Jealousy
For quite some time now, I’ve wondered, “why does she hate me so much?” I never knew her or my partner when they were going through divorce. I didn’t cause the divorce. I have been kind and considerate despite her outbursts and insults, her belittling and attempts to manipulate me. I don’t do drugs, get…
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How to Enforce Following Court Paperwork
One of the biggest headaches for ex-spouses with kids is the court paperwork. First actually agreeing to a parenting plan. And then actually following it. Once you’ve overcome the first hurdle of getting a signed agreement in court, you then have to follow it either until the children are adults or until there is a…
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How to Support Stepparents in School Activities
It’s back-to-school time again, and my step kids are starting a new school year in a new school district (less than 5 miles from the previous school, but new nonetheless). During the last school year, our main struggle was getting the other side to help with homework or projects at all, often times leaving us…
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How to Make Your “Home” a Place of Peace
When I think of “home”, I think of my personal place of refuge, rest, peace, and comfort. A place that I can wind down after a long day and make happy memories with my family. For those of us that have been divorced though, we know well that it’s not always so ideal. In considering…
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Encouragement for when you feel unappreciated
With your own children that you’ve raised from birth, there’s a natural connection. A bond and an understanding that has grown and evolved throughout every stage of their childhood. You know all of their likes and dislikes. Strength and weaknesses. The things that motivate them and the ones that stress them out. You are undeniably…
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How to deal with villainous behavior
In nearly every story ever told, there is a protagonist and an antagonist. A hero and a villain. A winner and a loser. The storyline plays out as expected. The initial attempt to pacify or extend an olive branch. The escalation full of villainous behavior. An epic battle. And good overcoming evil. Oftentimes, in these…
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How to keep your integrity as a new stepmom or bonus mom
Let’s face it — blended families and bringing in new parental figures or role models is commonplace in today’s world. If you’re dating in your 30’s or later, then chances are that either you or your partner has been divorced and may even have children. And these relationships are usually even more sensitive and cautious…
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Our Goal: Becoming a Stepmom of Love
Being a stepmom or a bonus mom is a whole different ball game when it comes to having a family and raising children. Stepping into a new relationship and marriage can feel crazy enough. However, making a choice to merge families and invite children that aren’t your own blood brings a completely different set of…